How To Start Dating Again
We know, we know, we know. You’ve finally dumped that no-good boyfriend or girlfriend and now you’re ready to get back into that dating scene…kinda scary! You’re so used to being with that one person that it’s very hard to make that change. But what you need to do is get up, put on some clothes, get that hair tight, and STOP FEELING SORRY FOR YOURSELF!! We’ve tried to find some ways to make the transition easier for all of you who are taking that dive back into the dating pool:
1. Deal With Your Unfinished Business
Take a closer look at the unfinished business in all of your relationships and any resulting patterns that surface. By examining the role you play in each interaction you have with loved ones, you'll not only be able let go of your past, but you'll also learn more about your motivations and expectations for future relationships as well.
2. Reflect on Negative Self-Talk
Have you ever noticed when you are alone the things you say to yourself without thinking? "I'll never get married," or "Why would anyone ever find me attractive?" are both examples of negative self talk. Catch yourself when you find yourself doing this, write your thoughts down, and reflect on why you’re feeling this way. Try to find ways to turn these into positive thoughts and feelings.
3. Define Your Needs
There is a fine line between having realistic relationship expectations and being open to whatever comes your way. Therefore, keeping an open mind while still remembering what's truly important to you in a relationship is ideal. Do you still want that brother or sister you wanted when you were 21 now that you’re 29 and much more “seasoned”? Probably not!
4. Feel ConfidentConfidence and self-esteem are crucial to putting your best foot forward and making a great first impression. Make sure to take the time to ease your nerves and deal with any dating fears before starting to date again.
Seeing Things Differently
Having trouble seeing where your partner is coming from sometimes? Here are eight tips for finding middle groundBy Dr. Scott Haltzman http://www.hitchedmag.com/
Question:Why does my partner seem to want different things from the relationship than I do?
Answer: When my office doors open to a couple who is seeking help in their relationship, not much time elapses before it becomes apparent that they are looking at the same relationship from two different perspectives: his and hers.
It's common to believe that couples' values for happiness are worlds apart. Actually, in most cases, men and women share many values they take for granted: they agree that they seek warmth, love, companionship, financial security and a safe environment to raise children. So, if they're on the same page with so many key issues, why do some couples have so many hard feelings about what they don't share?
Human nature explains part of the issue. It's rare when a couple sits around and celebrates all the things they agree on, but when there's that one point of discord, it consumes a great deal of their time and attention.
Different brains
Differences in how men and women perceive things also explain why we often feel our needs aren't being met. Brain studies show that men are excellent at navigating three-dimensional puzzles, but less accomplished at perceiving subtle changes in facial expressions; day-old boys are just as attentive to geometric objects as they are to human faces. Girls, on the other hand, pay rapt attention to faces from day one; they are more attentive to human emotions, and seem to have more diverse brain ability to verbalize their emotions. As boys and girls grow, they are shaped by their biology and social environment to have different strengths and weaknesses. When couples don't realize these differences, it can lead to misunderstanding.
When a woman doesn't realize that her guy may be listening to her with the sole intent of "solving her problems" (as he would a 3-D puzzle), she may feel unheard and uncared about when he interrupts her with suggestions. When a guy doesn't know that his partner wants to feel emotionally connected with him, he may feel rejected when she declines his invitation to sleep cuddled together.
Happy relationships are ones in which couples focus on areas of agreement and see the differences as a source of personal growth. Happy mates have the ability to capitalize on the differences between the sexes. Here are some of the things happy couples have taught me:
Women:
1. Know the things that make your man a man: Is he action oriented? Does he need pampering? Does he need credit for his achievements? Does he have a strong sex drive? There are many ways that your guy is different than you -- some of them are the reasons why you fell in love with him in the first place.
2. Nurture his nature: Okay, if you've figured out what makes him tick, why let those things tick you off? Instead, go with the flow. If he needs credit for small things, give it to him. He's happy, and you just saved yourself a lot of grief!
3. Take control of your happiness: Women today have more opportunities than ever, and unfortunately, more expectations as well. Here's the bottom line: you'll exhaust yourself if you try to be the best at everything all the time. Forget it. It's just not gonna happen. Instead, stand back and get a sense of priorities. Then, decide where to put your efforts, and ask your man to fill some of the gaps. But just remember, he's likely to do it his way [see (1) above].
4. Be good to yourself: a healthy diet, exercise, sex, "down" time and maintaining friendships can all be ways of keeping your life in balance.
Men:
1. Make sure your gal knows she's number one. She's working darn hard to juggle all the demands of today's woman. She's got to know that you're making her a priority.
2. Keep a "can do" attitude: Men sometimes feel overwhelmed with the "rules" of a relationship, and often believe that they can't get it right. When you take the time to see how your partner's needs differ from your own, you'll be in a better position to make both of you happier.
3. Get home! It's a dog-eat-dog world out there, and lots of guys focus on being the best, either on the tennis court or in the board room. But don't forget that your other half got involved with you because she wanted you around. You've got to balance your priorities so that your partner feels you're spending enough time by her side.
4. Learn how to listen. Your fix-it skills propel you to respond to your partner's conversations by either jumping in with suggestions (because you think that's what she needs) or just tuning out (if you think there's nothing you can do). There's always something you can do, and usually it involves supporting your partner and providing a caring ear. Listening is an important way to make her feel there is an emotional connection -- often a prerequisite to a great sex life.
When a couple can learn to respect their differences, and act in ways that honor those distinctions, they find the key to fulfilling the needs of their partner.
Marrying someone of different Faith?????
Love can overcome any obstacle; but deepening your understanding of love will take patience and time.What may help a great deal is to find out how you(and later, he) define the following words:
man woman husband wife marriage
I've observed and/or been in, the expectations that one partner has of the other and their role(s) are often way out of whack.
In addition, it will be very helpful to know his attitudes---and yours---toward the following subjects:
sex power money children
...as these are the areas all couples fight about the most. Again, almost all go into a marriage having little if any idea how their partner feels about these subjects; better to bite the bullet and learn well BEFORE the marriage than after. "Marry in haste, repent at leisure" is a good saying to keep you watchful and aware.
POEM.....................................
TOUCH A WOMAN'S MIND, AND YOU GET HER INTEREST
TOUCH A WOMAN'S HEART, AND YOU GET HER LOVE
TOUCH A WOMAN'S SOUL, ALONG WITH THE LORD TOUCHING IT
AND YOU GET PASSION BEYOND YOUR WILDEST DREAMS
ONCE YOU HAVE TOUCHED ALL 3YOU HAVE FOUND YOUR SOUL MATE
GOD ALWAYS GIVES HIS BEST
TO THOSE WHO LEAVE THE
CHOICE WITH HIM
RELATIONSHIPS DON'T THRIVE BECAUSETHE GUILTY ARE PUNISHED...
BUT BECAUSE THE INNOCENT ARE MERCIFUL.
LIFE IS SHORT!
BREAK THE RULES!
FORGIVE QUICKLY!
KISS SLOWLY!
LOVE TRULY!
LAUGH UNCONTROLLABLY
AND NEVER REGRET,ANYTHING THAT MADE YOU SMILE.
Keep Your thoughts positive, because your thoughtsbecome your words.Keep your words positive, because your words become your actions.Keep your actions positive, because your actions become your habits.
Talk happiness; talk faith; talk health. Say you are well, and all is well with you, and God shall hear your words and make them true.
-Ella Wheeler Wilcox
And for all of us grown folks who didn’t graduate from A&T (not hating, 2 of my brothers are Aggies!), here is a rundown of this weekend’s hottest events!
Thursday, October 25
Card Slappin’ and Soul Food Smackin’
2424 NoDa, Suite 105
Ladies Night @ the V on the 4th
305 W. 4th St.
“Unwine Theory Jazz and Poetry” The Alumni Lounge
The Grape @ Northlake Mall
6801 Northlake Drive
Friday, October 26
Six Figure Entertainment Presents The Masquerade Edition
Ruth’s Chris (Uptown) 222 S. Tryon Street
Inner Circle Events Presents The Candyman Event
Zink American Restaurant 201 S. Tryon Street
Flirt Fridays @ The Sunset Club/ Eyes Wide Shut Edition
1820 South Blvd. (South End)
Saturday, October 27
Maz Entertainment Presents Hollywood Halloween
City Tavern Uptown in the Hearst Tower 214 N. Tryon Street
Brown Sugar Jam (SOS) featuring Special Ed
Grand Central-1000 Central Avenue
Official JCSU Alumni Homecoming Afterparty
Illusions Grill and Bar
3108 E. Independence Blvd.
Memory Lane JCSU Step Show Afterparty
Jillians Uptown
Ambience Entourage Presents “Celebrity Status”
Verona Lounge
127 N. Tryon Street (2nd Floor of the Ivey’s Building)
We give you what your crave, not just what you need..............
Thursday, October 25, 2007
Wednesday, October 17, 2007
We Are Hip Hop!!!!!
BET HIP HOP AWARDS 2007
Was it just me or was this year's awards show kinda flat? I'm not sure if it was the performers or the set up. I know it didn't feel right without T.I.'s performance. :)
Loved David Banner's monologue (he repped for Michael Vick BIG time) and Katt Williams STILL keeps me rolling every time I see him on stage!
They say Nelly had his new girlfriend at the awards but sat beside Ashanti. I guess it was too late to change the
seating. But Ashanti was his biggest fan when he came out and did his thing on stage. Not so sure how true that rumor is because they look all hugged up at her 27th birthday celebration. This is obviously the same night as the awards becuase this is the same outfit. Happy BDay Ashanti!!!!!!!!! 
Keyshia Cole and Ciara, we love your new look.....keep it up!!!! And speaking of Ciara, why did they put her on stage with that short (but cute) Hill Harper. I swear I just kept wishing he would grow!
DON'T STAY IN THAT RUT
Procrastination: One Reason Why Black Businesses Fail
According to the U.S. Census Bureau, African Americans are more likely to start a business - but are also more likely to fail at business than any other race. Let's address one common reason why many of our businesses don't survive: Procrastination.
Looking to kill your business? No problem, keep procrastinating. No one wants their business to go down the tubes, but procrastination is one of the most lethal ways to destroy a business from the inside out. Procrastination cuts off any possibility of success, even before you've taken on your first customer. It sucks the lifeblood from everything you hope to do by leaving you right there--in the valley of hopes and dreams--rather than on the mountain of action and results.
Not sure what some of the symptoms of procrastination are? Let's start with that client you promised to follow up with yesterday. Did you make the call? How about getting that business paperwork in order? Can you pull your taxes from three years ago within minutes? If not, then procrastination could be keeping you from fulfilling your promises, organizing your business and managing your finances to ensure your business is not pulled out from under you, by you.
Dante Lee is the president and CEO of Diversity City Media, a multicultural marketing and public relations firm based in Columbus, Ohio . His daily blog, BlackBusinessCoach.com, offers a FREE email and RSS subscription for black entrepreneurs and business owners.
TREATING KIDS WHO CATCH COLDS
Colds are going to last a week if you aggressively treat them; and about seven days if you leave them alone. (Symptoms can last longer in infants). Nature has provided about 200 or so different strains of colds to help jump start an infant's immune system. By getting little colds, babies will be better able to fight off other, more serious, infections. Nature provides an ample supply of human viruses and people provide the transport system so we can freely share them.
New parents are not prepared for snotty noses, coughing, and fever, especially in an infant. As a matter of fact, ANY fever tends to freak out novice Moms and Dads. Fever is the body's most primitive immune response and need not be feared. It should be viewed as an expected and welcomed response. When your body raises its temperature, viruses find it more difficult to replicate. If we keep loading kids up with acetaminophen (Tylenol) or ibuprofen (Advil, Motrin), we are really defeating this beneficial fever response. If the kids are handling the fever well, it is often better to leave them alone. However, is perfectly fine to treat misery. Colds can cause body aches and headaches and babies do not understand discomfort. It is okay to treat for comfort, but don't let the thermometer tell you what to do.Except in very rare occasions, fever is not dangerous and will not cause brain damage (at least in kids). Inexperienced parents, on the other hand, seem to get brain damage when their child becomes ill.
Colds will occur with or without these recalled medications. Children will get better, with or without these recalled medications. Yes, they may be a more stuffy, and you will need to use some saline nasal spray and the feared, nose-sucker (nasal aspirator), but they will get better. Children may cough a bit more, but coughing helps clear a mucous-filled airway. You may have to get out that cool mist humidifier again.
And, finally, you may need to make some homemade chicken soup, often called Jewish Penicillin. If you can't, there is always Campbell's. Chicken soup not only hydrates and warms those mucous membranes; it tastes great, and will give you something to do while nature orchestrates that cure.
Was it just me or was this year's awards show kinda flat? I'm not sure if it was the performers or the set up. I know it didn't feel right without T.I.'s performance. :)
Loved David Banner's monologue (he repped for Michael Vick BIG time) and Katt Williams STILL keeps me rolling every time I see him on stage!
They say Nelly had his new girlfriend at the awards but sat beside Ashanti. I guess it was too late to change the
seating. But Ashanti was his biggest fan when he came out and did his thing on stage. Not so sure how true that rumor is because they look all hugged up at her 27th birthday celebration. This is obviously the same night as the awards becuase this is the same outfit. Happy BDay Ashanti!!!!!!!!! Keyshia Cole and Ciara, we love your new look.....keep it up!!!! And speaking of Ciara, why did they put her on stage with that short (but cute) Hill Harper. I swear I just kept wishing he would grow!
DON'T STAY IN THAT RUT
Procrastination: One Reason Why Black Businesses Fail
According to the U.S. Census Bureau, African Americans are more likely to start a business - but are also more likely to fail at business than any other race. Let's address one common reason why many of our businesses don't survive: Procrastination.
Looking to kill your business? No problem, keep procrastinating. No one wants their business to go down the tubes, but procrastination is one of the most lethal ways to destroy a business from the inside out. Procrastination cuts off any possibility of success, even before you've taken on your first customer. It sucks the lifeblood from everything you hope to do by leaving you right there--in the valley of hopes and dreams--rather than on the mountain of action and results.
Not sure what some of the symptoms of procrastination are? Let's start with that client you promised to follow up with yesterday. Did you make the call? How about getting that business paperwork in order? Can you pull your taxes from three years ago within minutes? If not, then procrastination could be keeping you from fulfilling your promises, organizing your business and managing your finances to ensure your business is not pulled out from under you, by you.
Dante Lee is the president and CEO of Diversity City Media, a multicultural marketing and public relations firm based in Columbus, Ohio . His daily blog, BlackBusinessCoach.com, offers a FREE email and RSS subscription for black entrepreneurs and business owners.
TREATING KIDS WHO CATCH COLDS
Colds are going to last a week if you aggressively treat them; and about seven days if you leave them alone. (Symptoms can last longer in infants). Nature has provided about 200 or so different strains of colds to help jump start an infant's immune system. By getting little colds, babies will be better able to fight off other, more serious, infections. Nature provides an ample supply of human viruses and people provide the transport system so we can freely share them.
New parents are not prepared for snotty noses, coughing, and fever, especially in an infant. As a matter of fact, ANY fever tends to freak out novice Moms and Dads. Fever is the body's most primitive immune response and need not be feared. It should be viewed as an expected and welcomed response. When your body raises its temperature, viruses find it more difficult to replicate. If we keep loading kids up with acetaminophen (Tylenol) or ibuprofen (Advil, Motrin), we are really defeating this beneficial fever response. If the kids are handling the fever well, it is often better to leave them alone. However, is perfectly fine to treat misery. Colds can cause body aches and headaches and babies do not understand discomfort. It is okay to treat for comfort, but don't let the thermometer tell you what to do.Except in very rare occasions, fever is not dangerous and will not cause brain damage (at least in kids). Inexperienced parents, on the other hand, seem to get brain damage when their child becomes ill.
Colds will occur with or without these recalled medications. Children will get better, with or without these recalled medications. Yes, they may be a more stuffy, and you will need to use some saline nasal spray and the feared, nose-sucker (nasal aspirator), but they will get better. Children may cough a bit more, but coughing helps clear a mucous-filled airway. You may have to get out that cool mist humidifier again.
And, finally, you may need to make some homemade chicken soup, often called Jewish Penicillin. If you can't, there is always Campbell's. Chicken soup not only hydrates and warms those mucous membranes; it tastes great, and will give you something to do while nature orchestrates that cure.
ENTERTAINMENT BLAST
Poor T.I.!!! I feel it was a set up. The Feds held a press conference today in downtown Atlanta to 
display the collection of revolvers, automatic rifles, machine guns and pistols found in rapper T.I.'s home and car. Nothing unusual here: one would normally find guns like these in a collector's home. The fact that the collector is a convicted felon and popular rapper who obtained the weapons by illegal means is what makes this is a national news story. I am mad that he wasn't there for the BET awards and that Busta tried to steal the show. Oh and word has it Tiny is pregnant again. She lost her previous child due to all the stress she was under. So we will keep her in our prayers because we know she is under alot of stress.
display the collection of revolvers, automatic rifles, machine guns and pistols found in rapper T.I.'s home and car. Nothing unusual here: one would normally find guns like these in a collector's home. The fact that the collector is a convicted felon and popular rapper who obtained the weapons by illegal means is what makes this is a national news story. I am mad that he wasn't there for the BET awards and that Busta tried to steal the show. Oh and word has it Tiny is pregnant again. She lost her previous child due to all the stress she was under. So we will keep her in our prayers because we know she is under alot of stress. I love New York. She is as ugly as Flava Flav. Please hurry up and cancel the show. NO more please. And why did they let that midget even come to the house???!!!!!!!!!!!
For all yall hip hop heads get ready for the LL cool J and Jay Z battle.....
PARTY PARTY PARTYYYYYY!!!
Friday Oct 26th Six Figure presents The Masquerade Edition @Ruths Chris Steak House on South Tryon.
Street DJ Flamingo 21 to enter 25 preferred
Saturday Oct 27 MAZEntertainment.com presents Hollywood Halloween costume party (costumes optional) City Tavern in Hearst Tower.
P.S..WE GIVE YOU WHAT YOU CRAVE NOT JUST WHAT YOU NEED!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Wednesday, October 10, 2007
Young, Black, and Professional
Well, isn’t that you?! We’d like to dedicate this week’s issue to all of us. The grinders. Those who make it happen (or try to) every day. The go-getters. The young at heart and in spirit. We want you to succeed at every endeavor you wish…so here’s to you and all you do to get yours and keep it!
Get Your Mind Right
One of the biggest obstacles facing our young people is a lack of adequate education and information about today’s job market. Gone are the days when just having a college degree guaranteed you a “good job”. Having a back-up plan is what you need when entering the workplace, be it the first time or the tenth. Knowledge is key when trying to stay one step ahead of the game. Whether it’s to make extra money, or to help make ends meet, a LEGAL hustle is what it’s all about! Real estate, privatized home health care, and personal beautification (spas and salons) are professions that can either supplement your income or make you rich…the choice is yours. Pick up this great book in order to help you decide what to do and give you the confidence to do it, Myths of Rich and Poor: Why We’re Better Off Than We Think by W. Michael Cox and Richard Alm.
Push Your Limits
One thing people are often scared to do when seeking more financial stability is moving. There is a certain fear of the unknown, especially if you’re not already employed in the new area or if you’re used to being close to family. The biggest mistake you can make is letting that trap you into not making that big move in order to change your life and your situation. Don’t regret going after your dreams, or just moving to give yourself a fresh start. Here are the top 10 cities for black people to live or relocate:
These cities offer the best opportunities for networking, entrepreneurship, homeownership, and job security according to several studies, but don’t take our word for it, read about it here: http://www.thefreelibrary.com/Top+10+cities+for+African+Americans+2007:+our+readers+and+editors...-a0162882980
Take Care of Yourself
We all know that as young people, we don’t always give ourselves the best TLC. We party, get up early as you know what for work, we don’t eat right, and we don’t allow ourselves time to chill and relax…WITHOUT going to the club! Please, make sure you try to follow these little reminders to keep yourself looking so YBF!
-Get at least 8 hours of sleep a night
-Drink 8 glasses of water each day
- Eat plenty of green vegetables
- Drink alcohol in moderation
- Make regular visits to your physician
There are also some very positive events taking place in Charlotte this weekend, so take your pick and enlighten yourself, and if you're already aware, make someone else aware also!Having Our Say: The Delaney Sisters' First 100 Years-Afro-American Cultural Center, October 11-14.
B-Risque Fitness and B-Mania at the new University location-8404 N. Tryon Street, October 12.
Fundraiser for Underprivileged Children-AllStars Restaurant 5638 Albemarle Road, October 13.
We hope we have helped you begin to make a change in your life, if that’s what you’re seeking, or just gave you some information that you weren’t aware of. All of us would like to live well, it just takes Passion and Sacrifice. A better YOU is waiting!!
P.S...We give you what you crave, not just what you need!!!!
Friday, October 5, 2007
Better late than never...............................
As you know, we told you that Senator Barack Obama would reschedule his town hall meeting in Rock Hill, and we have received the new information! He is now scheduled to speak at Northwestern High School at 2503 W. Main Street on Saturday, October 6 and doors open at 7:00 p.m. Of course, this event is free and open to the general public, but an RSVP is encouraged due to the expected turnout. You can RSVP by clicking this link, http://sc.barackobama.com/RHevent, and get another chance to check out OUR next presidential candidate!
I really hate to even let Bill O’Reilly have any of my time, but I’m sure all of you have heard about his racist comments that he made on his radio show about his experience while eating dinner with the Reverend Al Sharpton at Sylvia’s soul food restaurant in
Harlem. In a nutshell, he said that black people actually know how to eat in a civilized
manner, don’t curse at waitresses, and that he was surprised. Wow. I’m surprised that people are in an uproar about this. As far as I know and have heard, he has never had anything positive to say about black people and our culture. So, I think he and his comments have taken up enough space on this blog. However, on a note more to my liking, check out the article below, and while you’re at it, Google Juan Williams, he’s a good ol’ black Bill O’Reilly supporter!
“Why I Called Juan Williams a ‘Happy Negro’ on CNN—And Why He and Bill O’Reilly Are Not Happy About It” by Dr. Boyce Watkins. Also visit his website http://www.boycewatkins.com/, he has an interesting viewpoint and isn’t afraid to talk about it!
The last bit of bad news for today comes from Hempstead, N.Y.
JENA PART 2 - HEMPSTEAD, N.Y. — A noose was found dangling in the headquarters of a suburban police department that prides itself on its diversity, the police chief said.
Read here for the full story on the noose hanging in the New York police department.
I really hate to even let Bill O’Reilly have any of my time, but I’m sure all of you have heard about his racist comments that he made on his radio show about his experience while eating dinner with the Reverend Al Sharpton at Sylvia’s soul food restaurant in
Harlem. In a nutshell, he said that black people actually know how to eat in a civilized
manner, don’t curse at waitresses, and that he was surprised. Wow. I’m surprised that people are in an uproar about this. As far as I know and have heard, he has never had anything positive to say about black people and our culture. So, I think he and his comments have taken up enough space on this blog. However, on a note more to my liking, check out the article below, and while you’re at it, Google Juan Williams, he’s a good ol’ black Bill O’Reilly supporter!
“Why I Called Juan Williams a ‘Happy Negro’ on CNN—And Why He and Bill O’Reilly Are Not Happy About It” by Dr. Boyce Watkins. Also visit his website http://www.boycewatkins.com/, he has an interesting viewpoint and isn’t afraid to talk about it!
The last bit of bad news for today comes from Hempstead, N.Y.
JENA PART 2 - HEMPSTEAD, N.Y. — A noose was found dangling in the headquarters of a suburban police department that prides itself on its diversity, the police chief said.
Read here for the full story on the noose hanging in the New York police department.
But on to the positive stuff!! This long weekend is so packed with parties, but we felt we needed to spotlight one in particular, Swagger Sundays at the Sunset Club. Go get your swagga on we will be here to party with the grown folks.
Fellas, keep your game SO professional in these hot Pradas! If you got your swagga together, you already know how and where to get them…but if not, check out our hotlist! 
http://www.raffaello-network.com/ is the website.
http://www.raffaello-network.com/ is the website.
SUPERHEAD CONFRONTS BIG TIGGER ON RADIO!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
http://www.thelifefiles.com/superhead-confronts-big-tigger-on-radio/
http://www.thelifefiles.com/superhead-confronts-big-tigger-on-radio/
Giving you what you crave, not just what you need!!!!!!!!!!!!
Wednesday, September 26, 2007
Decisions, Decisions, Decisions
What’s up my good people?? I’m sure there were many of you that were disappointed when Barack Obama had to postpone his town hall meeting in Rock Hill on last Thursday, we were as well. But we’ve received word that he will reschedule soon, so keep checking for the dates and times, you know we’ll have all of the info for you!
For all of you who don’t know, there is a Black woman campaigning to be the next mayor of Charlotte. Beverly Earle is currently serving her seventh term in the N.C. House of Representatives and was named the 12th most effective legislator out of 120 in 2006. The core values she represents and envisions for Charlotte are Leadership, Oversight, Change, and Building Bridges. Please read more for yourself at www.beverlyearleformayor.com. Don’t just vote for her because of who she is, but because of what she stands for. That’s right, stand up and represent for possibly the first Black female mayor of the Queen City. Now THAT’S a good look!
We especially want to thank those who attended last week’s rally in Jena, Louisiana. There were over 70,000 people in attendance, including celebrities and young people from all over the country. We as young people need to step up and become today’s activists, because there are injustices committed against us every day. Email us about your experience if you went down there at professionalswagga@gmail.com.
Now we know that you miss all of the exclusive party info, so you know we had to come back and give it to you…check out below for all of this weekend’s hottest events.
Friday, September 28
Flirt Fridays @ The Sunset Club
CD Release for Raheem DeVaughn @ Tempo
The Chocolate Party II @ Arpa Tapas/Wine Bar/ Grill
Saturday September 29
Ladies in Red/3rd Annual Virgo Birthday Bash @ Allure
The Royal Pursuit @ Prestos Bar and Grill
Suite 106 @ The Sunset Club
Thought of the week
"Why give aging a bad name? Why drag yourself like a ball and chain? … Each day you have, you've had a chance to become wiser, riper, more interesting—and I want to talk to people that are mature."
— Alfre Woodard
Hey Big Spenders, Look At These Cars, Cars, Cars
Boy, th
is red is sweet on this Ferrari 599 GTB Fiorano. It has a 6 speed transmission, a 6-liter V12 Engine, revs from 0 to 60 in 3.7 seconds, and tops speeds over 205mph. This could be yours for $255,484.
Woman states the camera with the photo was taken from her possession and they are not photo shopped. Oh, AND she didn't receive money. So I guess he likes to play dress up and then knock your a$$ out!!!
Look everyone bangs pushed to the side, we are getting there Remy....lol. Oh, by the way, she didnt catch a charge for roughin' up those boys. I guess the judge decided her face was rough enough...
Lil Scrappy and his nasty burnt butt. His girl keep yellin how everytime he comes home from tour she has a std. She told this to a friend of hers who also F'd him. See ladies quit tellin these hoes all your business about your man. That friend of hers is probably the one giving it to her!!!!
For all the mommies and daddies check out Solange Knowles Baby Jamz for your little ones. http://www.babyjamz.com/ It was told that Jay Z overheard her singing to handsome little man and he suggested she make nursery rhymes. Hell she cant make a hit for the grown folks so why not target the tots. Thanks to her big bro for having that hustlin blood.
For all of you who don’t know, there is a Black woman campaigning to be the next mayor of Charlotte. Beverly Earle is currently serving her seventh term in the N.C. House of Representatives and was named the 12th most effective legislator out of 120 in 2006. The core values she represents and envisions for Charlotte are Leadership, Oversight, Change, and Building Bridges. Please read more for yourself at www.beverlyearleformayor.com. Don’t just vote for her because of who she is, but because of what she stands for. That’s right, stand up and represent for possibly the first Black female mayor of the Queen City. Now THAT’S a good look!
We especially want to thank those who attended last week’s rally in Jena, Louisiana. There were over 70,000 people in attendance, including celebrities and young people from all over the country. We as young people need to step up and become today’s activists, because there are injustices committed against us every day. Email us about your experience if you went down there at professionalswagga@gmail.com.
Now we know that you miss all of the exclusive party info, so you know we had to come back and give it to you…check out below for all of this weekend’s hottest events.
Friday, September 28
Flirt Fridays @ The Sunset Club
CD Release for Raheem DeVaughn @ Tempo
The Chocolate Party II @ Arpa Tapas/Wine Bar/ Grill
Saturday September 29
Ladies in Red/3rd Annual Virgo Birthday Bash @ Allure
The Royal Pursuit @ Prestos Bar and Grill
Suite 106 @ The Sunset Club
Ways to save energy:
1. Unplug everything that doesnt have a 24 hour use.
2. Curb your temperture on the thermostat. I suggest leaving it at 75 degrees. Doing this can save you $150 a year. For those of use that do not have a separate heating/cooling unit for up and down stairs a rule of thumb. In the summer close your vents downstairs and vice versa to make the house one temperture. Also make sure your water heater is set at mid-range of 120 degrees.
3. Close any draft from windows or doors. You can find these closers in lowes or your nearest hardware store. Also make sure you have double pane windows instea of just single pane.
4. A low showerhead can reduce carbon-dioxide and lower your bill $20 to $40 dollars a year.
Relationship
Is he the right guy for you???????
Psychotherapist Dr. Garry Corgiat says you should approach your relationship like a business. It might not be the most romantic idea, but treating your mate like a business partner just might work. Here are some ideas to think about before taking the marriage plunge.
1. Is this the kind of person you would want to open a business with? Could you run a company together? If not, he’s probably not the right guy.
1. Unplug everything that doesnt have a 24 hour use.
2. Curb your temperture on the thermostat. I suggest leaving it at 75 degrees. Doing this can save you $150 a year. For those of use that do not have a separate heating/cooling unit for up and down stairs a rule of thumb. In the summer close your vents downstairs and vice versa to make the house one temperture. Also make sure your water heater is set at mid-range of 120 degrees.
3. Close any draft from windows or doors. You can find these closers in lowes or your nearest hardware store. Also make sure you have double pane windows instea of just single pane.
4. A low showerhead can reduce carbon-dioxide and lower your bill $20 to $40 dollars a year.
Relationship
Is he the right guy for you???????
Psychotherapist Dr. Garry Corgiat says you should approach your relationship like a business. It might not be the most romantic idea, but treating your mate like a business partner just might work. Here are some ideas to think about before taking the marriage plunge.
1. Is this the kind of person you would want to open a business with? Could you run a company together? If not, he’s probably not the right guy.
2. Does he communicate?
3. Is he a team player?
4. Does he have a good work ethic?
5. Can he handle finances?
(P.S. Are your sexual needs met..........Come on that is a BIG factor :)
Think About Money
The intimacy might be great, but you’re not going to think about what happens between the sheets if you find out you’re in financial trouble. Money coach Lynnette Khalfani says the number one thing people need to do is check their partner’s FICO score. That three digit number tells you just how how financially healthy your partner is (or isn’t) and you can decide how to move forward from there.
Make A Decision to Love
Father Ken Deasy says you have to commit to love. If you decide to love, you’ll always have to work on compassion.
Posted by The Tyra Banks Show on September 24, 2007
Father Ken Deasy says you have to commit to love. If you decide to love, you’ll always have to work on compassion.
Posted by The Tyra Banks Show on September 24, 2007
Thought of the week
"Why give aging a bad name? Why drag yourself like a ball and chain? … Each day you have, you've had a chance to become wiser, riper, more interesting—and I want to talk to people that are mature."
— Alfre Woodard
Hey Big Spenders, Look At These Cars, Cars, Cars
Boy, th
is red is sweet on this Ferrari 599 GTB Fiorano. It has a 6 speed transmission, a 6-liter V12 Engine, revs from 0 to 60 in 3.7 seconds, and tops speeds over 205mph. This could be yours for $255,484.This blue Rolls Royce P
hantom Drophead Coupe' will definitely make heads turn. Standard is $412,000.
hantom Drophead Coupe' will definitely make heads turn. Standard is $412,000.The Audi R8
midsize sports car has 420 horses in a V8 FSI engine, goes from 0 to 62 in 4.6 seconds and you can drive manual or automatic. Price is between $110,000 and $120,000.
Entertainment Blast
Ill, De la Hoya............What were you thinking!
midsize sports car has 420 horses in a V8 FSI engine, goes from 0 to 62 in 4.6 seconds and you can drive manual or automatic. Price is between $110,000 and $120,000.Entertainment Blast
Ill, De la Hoya............What were you thinking!
Woman states the camera with the photo was taken from her possession and they are not photo shopped. Oh, AND she didn't receive money. So I guess he likes to play dress up and then knock your a$$ out!!!
Look everyone bangs pushed to the side, we are getting there Remy....lol. Oh, by the way, she didnt catch a charge for roughin' up those boys. I guess the judge decided her face was rough enough...
Lil Scrappy and his nasty burnt butt. His girl keep yellin how everytime he comes home from tour she has a std. She told this to a friend of hers who also F'd him. See ladies quit tellin these hoes all your business about your man. That friend of hers is probably the one giving it to her!!!!For all the mommies and daddies check out Solange Knowles Baby Jamz for your little ones. http://www.babyjamz.com/ It was told that Jay Z overheard her singing to handsome little man and he suggested she make nursery rhymes. Hell she cant make a hit for the grown folks so why not target the tots. Thanks to her big bro for having that hustlin blood.
P.S..... We give you what you crave not just what you need!!!!!!!!!!!!
Thursday, September 20, 2007
GET OFF YOUR BUTT AND INTO THE STREETS!!
Ha ha, no, this isn’t endorsing going out and partying this week, but getting out and supporting our leaders, whether they be famous or fairly unknown. Well people, time to get political and vigilant again, I’m tired of all of the injustices happening to black people these days. First off, all of our prayers and words of encouragement go out to the family of Mychal Bell, the 16-year-old young man from Jena, Louisiana. This black teen has become a national figure and hero and leader to some, including us. He is one of 6 teenagers charged with beating a white student after a racially motivated incident at the high school involving a tree that only white students sat under until blacks started sitting there one day. The day after the teens sat under the tree, nooses were hung from the tree. The white student was not seriously hurt, but the charges the teens face carry cumulative charges of over 200 years. Last Thursday, Bell’s charges were vacated, but yesterday a Louisiana appeals court ruled that it was too premature to release the teen. The Tuesday ruling is the latest turn in the racially charged saga of a group known as the Jena 6 -- six black teens initially charged with attempted murder after they allegedly knocked out classmate Justin Barker and stomped him during a school fight. Five of the teens were charged as adults. This is an outrage and is causing a firestorm across the country as again, some towns in the South cannot get over their culture of overt and institutional racism. There will be widespread protests all over the country Thursday, the day that the sentencing was originally supposed to take place. Get involved, we can’t let everything go unquestioned and unanswered, people!! Email us and let us know if you attended a protest and what you experienced at professionalswagga@gmail.com.
If you didn’t already know, THE Barack Obama is coming to our region on Thursday, to Rock Hill. This is a great opportunity for you YBF’s and everyone else to see our future president (hopefully!) in person and decide for yourself if you agree with his stand on certain critical issues that affect us as black people, young people, and as Americans. He is conducting a town hall meeting at The Freedom Center on Main Street, doors open at 11:30 and this is a free event!! Please come out and support this articulate, intelligent, conscious black man doing his thing on a national stage, and also visit his website, http://www.barackobama.com/ to show your support.
If you didn’t already know, THE Barack Obama is coming to our region on Thursday, to Rock Hill. This is a great opportunity for you YBF’s and everyone else to see our future president (hopefully!) in person and decide for yourself if you agree with his stand on certain critical issues that affect us as black people, young people, and as Americans. He is conducting a town hall meeting at The Freedom Center on Main Street, doors open at 11:30 and this is a free event!! Please come out and support this articulate, intelligent, conscious black man doing his thing on a national stage, and also visit his website, http://www.barackobama.com/ to show your support.
Quote from Robert Kiyosaki author of "Rich Dad Poor Dad"
"Life pushes all of us around. Some give up. Others fight. A few learn the lesson and move on. They welcome life pushing them around. To these few people, it means they need and want to learn something. They learn and move on. Most quit, and a few like you fight."
Dont ever give up fight !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
"Life pushes all of us around. Some give up. Others fight. A few learn the lesson and move on. They welcome life pushing them around. To these few people, it means they need and want to learn something. They learn and move on. Most quit, and a few like you fight."
Dont ever give up fight !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Fashionista
Cavi Designs
Be on the look out this fall for Phil Gapud creator of Cavi Designs. His line is inspired by military clothing with a urban twist and have one strips with Jay Z, TI, Fa bolous, and Timberland.
Cavi Designs
Be on the look out this fall for Phil Gapud creator of Cavi Designs. His line is inspired by military clothing with a urban twist and have one strips with Jay Z, TI, Fa bolous, and Timberland.
Entertainm
ent Blast Alicia Keys and Eve a couple?????? They have been seen in more places than one being very intimate. It must be that "Gangsta Lovin" I thought Alicia was with Kanye West. Well the list goes on.......
Foxxy Brown why are you lying about you being pregnant to stay our of jail. Her manager stated she is not pregnant I guess just fat. I was wondering who the baby daddy would be.
Why is Remy Ma always in trouble!!!!!! She finally got her attempted murder charge for shooting her friend in the stomach reredued to first degree assault now she and her boys jumped one of the wintnessess's boyfriends's and may be facing new charges. I just wish she remove the bangs. Please get another stylist.
Sex tip of the week:
Ok Fellas this is a lesson for you this time. Here are some pointers to help stimulate a woman to orgasm via the clitoris. Just in case you don't know the the clitoris located on the outside of the female body just above the opening of the vagina. The clitoris is a small protrusion that becomes more pronounced when a woman is aroused. So if you do not see any swelling you are not arousing her!!!! This is the only organ in the female body devoted solely to physical pleasure and is the physiological equivalent of the head of a man's penis -- packed with nerve endings and sensitive to touch.
-Keep it light; the area is very sensitive and she'll respond much better to a slow start. Please don't dive in it like your are famished!!!
-Include the surrounding area and don't focus too intently. The nerve endings extend out from her clitoris and she'll get pleasurable feelings from attention being paid to the entire area. In fact, too much direct attention can even be uncomfortable for some women and not to mention BORING!!!!!!!!
-Speed is important to her, just as it is to you when she visits down south. Steadily increasing strokes that are sustained are going to be much more successful than sporadic or inconsistent probing. Yes we know it may be the best thing you ever had but dont show it!!!!
And to sum it up, pay attention to the clit as it will measure the intensity of the orgasm.
Rhianna seems to be ready in this fierce pose to see what you fellas are working with. Do your thing girl, love your hair and that TAT.
If you would like to unsubscribe please email us at professionalswagga@gmail.com
Sex tip of the week:
Ok Fellas this is a lesson for you this time. Here are some pointers to help stimulate a woman to orgasm via the clitoris. Just in case you don't know the the clitoris located on the outside of the female body just above the opening of the vagina. The clitoris is a small protrusion that becomes more pronounced when a woman is aroused. So if you do not see any swelling you are not arousing her!!!! This is the only organ in the female body devoted solely to physical pleasure and is the physiological equivalent of the head of a man's penis -- packed with nerve endings and sensitive to touch.
-Keep it light; the area is very sensitive and she'll respond much better to a slow start. Please don't dive in it like your are famished!!!
-Include the surrounding area and don't focus too intently. The nerve endings extend out from her clitoris and she'll get pleasurable feelings from attention being paid to the entire area. In fact, too much direct attention can even be uncomfortable for some women and not to mention BORING!!!!!!!!
-Speed is important to her, just as it is to you when she visits down south. Steadily increasing strokes that are sustained are going to be much more successful than sporadic or inconsistent probing. Yes we know it may be the best thing you ever had but dont show it!!!!
And to sum it up, pay attention to the clit as it will measure the intensity of the orgasm.
Rhianna seems to be ready in this fierce pose to see what you fellas are working with. Do your thing girl, love your hair and that TAT.
If you would like to unsubscribe please email us at professionalswagga@gmail.com
P.S. We give you what you crave not what you want!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Wednesday, September 12, 2007
Always Remember Our Fallen Soldiers
We often take life for granted and don’t realize the gift that has been given to us. But this week is one for reflection. Yesterday was the sixth anniversary of the tragedy of September 11, 2001, in which 4 commercial airplanes were taken over by terrorists and crashed in Pennsylvania, Washington, D.C., and New York. This was the most catastrophic and deadly one-day event in American history. Almost 3,000 people lost their lives that day, including rescue workers, fireman, and police officers who tried to save those from the burning planes and collapsing buildings. I know that I can remember where I was that morning, when I saw those images, and how everyone stayed glued to the television for the entire day, thinking this wasn’t real, and how everyone prayed for those who were missing and for their families. We still pray for them and their losses and we will never forget.
One fact that a lot of people don’t know is that one of the pilots who flew the plane in Pennsylvania was a black man named Leroy Homer. He was a captain in the U.S. Air Force and a veteran of Desert Storm. The Organization of Black Airline Pilots, Inc. has dedicated a webpage to his honor, http://www.obap.org/html/OurLostComrade.htm., where you can read more about his life and make a donation to the charity established in his name.
Entertainment Blast
Okay, what’
s up with the SEXY album insert with pictures of 50 Cent and Ciara? Those photos are hot and Miss "Not My Goodies" sure does look comfortable in those big, tattooed arms of Mr. "I Run NY"! Ok so they say that is not Ciara but who knows........Potential story here? We’ll let you know, but either way, check out the remix to that joint, featuring Jay-Z and Diddy.
Kanye West is mad about not getting any awards at the VMA’s this year. Oh,
well, ‘Ye, please stop crying about 50 and that fake a$$ beef!! Your album is better than his anyway!!
Day 1: KW 437K and 50 310K and maybe 50 will keep his promise about not rapping anymore if you outsell him. Just fall back and see what happens, you may just be laughing all the way "straight to the bank"! Ha Ha Ha HA!!!!!!!!!!!! LOL!
And for all my ladies who missed the previous sex tips, check out the archives. But for this week, try doing your man somewhere totally spontaneous, like pulling over on the side of the road while you’re on your way out, sneaking into the bathroom stall in a restaurant, or any other public place that you could get caught! The excitement of possibly getting caught and having to hurry up is a turn-on for the both of you, and it may take you places you’ve NEVER been…just please don’t get caught, we would hate to hear those stories…LOLOL!!!!! On second thought, email us your funny stories about that if you have one, professionalswagga@gmail.com !
Biz of the week:
Congrats to Demetra on her new B~Risque Franchise in Rock Hill that will be opening in October. You know we will be in there learning some moves on that pole. More information will follow.................
Word of the week:
impassible \im-PASS-uh-buhl\, adjective:
1. Incapable of suffering; not subject to harm or pain.2. Unfeeling or not showing feeling.
Words of encouragement:
Happy moments, PRAISE GOD.
Difficult moments, SEEK GOD.
Quiet moments, WORSHIP GOD.
Painful moments, TRUST GOD.
Every moment, THANK GOD.
Thanks to all those who supported us and came out to The Charleston House for "Style and Swagga" Saturdays this past weekend! We hope you join us for the next 2nd Saturdays, October 13, and be prepared because its going to be hot!! We are appreciating all the ladies this time.
P.S…We give you what you crave, not just what you need!
One fact that a lot of people don’t know is that one of the pilots who flew the plane in Pennsylvania was a black man named Leroy Homer. He was a captain in the U.S. Air Force and a veteran of Desert Storm. The Organization of Black Airline Pilots, Inc. has dedicated a webpage to his honor, http://www.obap.org/html/OurLostComrade.htm., where you can read more about his life and make a donation to the charity established in his name.
Entertainment Blast
Okay, what’
s up with the SEXY album insert with pictures of 50 Cent and Ciara? Those photos are hot and Miss "Not My Goodies" sure does look comfortable in those big, tattooed arms of Mr. "I Run NY"! Ok so they say that is not Ciara but who knows........Potential story here? We’ll let you know, but either way, check out the remix to that joint, featuring Jay-Z and Diddy.Kanye West is mad about not getting any awards at the VMA’s this year. Oh,
well, ‘Ye, please stop crying about 50 and that fake a$$ beef!! Your album is better than his anyway!!Day 1: KW 437K and 50 310K and maybe 50 will keep his promise about not rapping anymore if you outsell him. Just fall back and see what happens, you may just be laughing all the way "straight to the bank"! Ha Ha Ha HA!!!!!!!!!!!! LOL!
And for all my ladies who missed the previous sex tips, check out the archives. But for this week, try doing your man somewhere totally spontaneous, like pulling over on the side of the road while you’re on your way out, sneaking into the bathroom stall in a restaurant, or any other public place that you could get caught! The excitement of possibly getting caught and having to hurry up is a turn-on for the both of you, and it may take you places you’ve NEVER been…just please don’t get caught, we would hate to hear those stories…LOLOL!!!!! On second thought, email us your funny stories about that if you have one, professionalswagga@gmail.com !
Biz of the week:
Congrats to Demetra on her new B~Risque Franchise in Rock Hill that will be opening in October. You know we will be in there learning some moves on that pole. More information will follow.................
Word of the week:
impassible \im-PASS-uh-buhl\, adjective:
1. Incapable of suffering; not subject to harm or pain.2. Unfeeling or not showing feeling.
Words of encouragement:
Happy moments, PRAISE GOD.
Difficult moments, SEEK GOD.
Quiet moments, WORSHIP GOD.
Painful moments, TRUST GOD.
Every moment, THANK GOD.
Thanks to all those who supported us and came out to The Charleston House for "Style and Swagga" Saturdays this past weekend! We hope you join us for the next 2nd Saturdays, October 13, and be prepared because its going to be hot!! We are appreciating all the ladies this time.
P.S…We give you what you crave, not just what you need!
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